The Only Child's Dilemma: Loneliness and the Path to Singlehood

Is anyone else who is an adult only child in their 30s feeling lonely and single? If you relate to this feeling, you are not alone. Let me take you on my journey, a mix of triumph and tribulation, as a grown-up-only child striving for an independent life.

Struggles and Ambitions

I am 32 years of age, and though I have finally achieved a good job after competitive exams, my parents continue to search for a daughter-in-law. This seems to imply that I might never marry due to societal pressures and expectations. But don't worry, fellow journeyer, let's delve into my story and find solace in understanding our unique experiences.

Life-Altering Event and Resilience

My life took a dramatic turn when, in a life-threatening accident on the GT Road near Panipat city, I endured a state of comatose for several days. It was a near-fatal encounter, and it left me with a profound realization of the fragility of life. Since then, I have often felt that I am running behind schedule in many aspects of life. Yet, the same society that looks down upon me with pity also uplifts me in myriad ways through my achievements.

Authorship and Creativity

I have authored and self-published more than seven books, all available on Amazon. Among my works, '7 Seconds' is my bestseller, with over 100 copies sold worldwide. The latest edition, '7 Seconds: Bhaarat Against Terror', is a testament to my resilience and the tumultuous times I've lived through, especially during the pandemic lockdowns.

Hobbies and Coping Mechanisms

Writing and composing music are my primary hobbies. These activities offer me a platform to explore my emotions and share my thoughts with the world. Inspired by the night of November 28, 2012, when love deeply hurt me, my poem 'Angel' is my most popular creation.

The Impact of Growing Up an Only Child

When you are an only child, the concept of sibling rivalry or having a friend with whom you can maintain a healthy competition sounds like a distant dream. During my childhood, my friends often team up against me without any malevolent intent, as most of them had siblings. This experience shaped me into the individual I am today.

Music and Self-Expression

Music has always been a way for me to express myself and share my experiences with the world. My original songs, ranging from emotive vocals to electric guitar and drums tracks, are all freely accessible on my unmonetized YouTube channel. Through my songs, I share tales of resilience, loss, and the indomitable spirit that keeps me going.

Conclusion

Being an only child and facing the challenges of loneliness and singlehood can be taxing, but it's crucial to remember that life is not a linear journey. We might feel alienated and alone, but our unique experiences shape us into strong and resilient individuals. Embrace your journey, and stay true to yourself. Perhaps one day, you’ll find a place where you belong and where you can thrive.