High IQ and the Pursuit of Intelligence Differences: Debunking Myths

Do people with high IQs sometimes seek to uncover the intelligence difference between them and the people they interact with? The answer is not always as straightforward as one might think. In this article, we will explore this question, examining common perceptions and realities surrounding individuals with high IQs, and debunk the myth that such individuals feel a constant need to prove their superiority.

IQ vs. Other Qualities

No, not unless they have an ego problem and if they do, they will do this regardless of their IQ. Most of us simply interact with others. The ones that bore us we avoid, and those that bore us, avoid us. These dynamics are largely independent of IQ.

It is important to note that high-IQ individuals are fully aware that IQ is just one of many measurements that predict various aspects of a person. Factors like shared interests, honesty, and kindness play a much more significant role in how we connect with others. IQ, in this context, is often not the primary focus.

Perceptions of Intelligence

Frankly, I've been around a lot of highly intelligent people all of my life, and I've yet to meet such a person as you have described. It is more common to interact with individuals who are focused on mutual interests and personal qualities rather than their IQ.

It is sometimes obvious when someone is not very bright, but other times, it is not so clear. For myself, it is generally not relevant, although I will admit that I often like smart people because we can have really good conversations. However, this does not mean that I only like people who are smart or that I have a psychological need to know how smart anyone else is.

Smart people, like myself, are more often attracted to those who share common interests and values. Intelligence is one of these factors, but not the only one. Personal compatibility and chemistry are more influential in our social dynamics.

Social Dynamics and Assholes

There are a few instances where I have had to work with individuals who seemed to be quite intelligent but always felt the need to prove their superiority. They would assume they were the smartest person in the room and wanted everyone to know it. However, this behavior is not indicative of most intelligent people.

I know of one individual who felt threatened by those who might also be smart and was so protective of his knowledge that he would not let anyone even look at, let alone borrow, the manuals for any of the software or computers he used. This tendency is more characteristic of a narrowed perspective rather than a general trait among high-IQ individuals.

It is crucial to recognize that the value of intelligence is greatly diminished if the individual is rude, cruel, mean, or nasty. People who display these traits are essentially considered "assholes," regardless of their level of intelligence. The quality of one's character and interpersonal skills often outweigh IQ in determining how one is perceived and valued.

Note on Different IQ Bands

If you read descriptions of different IQ bands, you will find that as you move above 170, people tend to prefer blending in with their peers. Those who are only somewhat more intelligent than average are the ones who often love to point out how much smarter they are than their peers. Those who are exceptionally intelligent do not need that kind of constant social reinforcement.

Intelligence, while important, is not the sole determinant of success, social standing, or personal relationships. It is the combination of intelligence, character, and interpersonal skills that creates a well-rounded and valuable individual. Understanding this can lead to healthier, more fulfilling interactions and relationships.