Escaping Toxic Relationships: Finding Peace After the Harsh Reality of a Narcissist

After four years of being on and off with a narcissist, it feels as though this discard is the final one. He has treated me with such brutality and without a shred of care. It is truly different. Has anyone else experienced this?

Lets pray it is so. I am so sorry that you and your children had to suffer at the hands of a narcissist! All glory to God that you are no longer together. It is painful now, but trust me, God saved you from a life of misery with a sub-human. I send you the warmest wishes for a bright and happy future ahead.

I am now in the second year of total discard, or perhaps the third, following the stages of a grieving process. I now understand that I would never pine for him again or let him back into my life. He was not worthy of my attention or affection. On the rare occasion that he slips into my mind, I imagine all the other people he may have had sex with and think about how lucky I was to escape a life with someone so destructive. I hope one day you will feel the same, glad to be free of your ex-narcissist.

There are so many more wonderful and non-narcissistic people in the world, and just one special person waiting for you. Love yourself first and foremost, realizing that you are worth so much better than to be with someone who has such a destructive personality disorder. Grow flowers, dance like no one is watching, and wash that man right out of your hair!

I have yet to be so lucky. The only thing you should worry about is yourself! Be grateful you haven’t been tormented in the past four months. Start new habits and get plenty of self-care. Prepare for the new and exciting relationships you will acquire in your future. For now, focus on yourself! When I hit the four-month mark of being discarded, I had three months to work on my 'Best Me.' Good luck, and stay positive!

My last discard lasted 18 months, which was long enough for me to realize that the narcissistic feelings had subsided, and I was back in control of my life. I kept the narcissist at bay, maintaining no emotional contact and achieving peace of mind.

For those who are currently in toxic relationships, remember that it is never too late to break free. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you, and seek professional help if needed. You deserve a life filled with love, respect, and joy. Keep your focus on yourself and your growth, and know that you are worthy of better.

Keywords: narcissist, toxic relationships, emotional recovery