Autistic Masking: The Reality and Impact of Social Camouflage

In the journey of autism, many individuals adopt a strategy known as masking to better fit into neurotypical environments. Masking is an incredibly difficult and often exhausting process that can have profound effects on an individual's mental health and overall well-being.

What is Masking?

Masking involves the deliberate suppression of autistic behaviors and the adoption of neurotypical social norms. This strategy typically includes:

Observing and emulating facial expressions and eye contact Interpreting and responding to social cues accurately Avoiding or minimizing stimming and other sensory integration difficulties Controlling the impulse to talk about topics of interest (info-dumping)

The goal is to appear socially adept and fit in with neurotypical individuals, making it a challenging and energy-intensive task for those who use it.

The Difficult Journey of Masking

Many autistic individuals use masking throughout their lives, even without realizing their own autistic traits. One such person, diagnosed at the age of 65, shares her experience of masking for most of her life. Her journey to understanding her autism is both inspiring and heart-wrenching.

During her early years, she believed she could not be autistic due to the misconception that high-functioning autism (now known as autism spectrum disorder) was rare in women and girls. This belief led to a lifetime of bullying and social exclusion, causing intense emotional distress and a profound sense of worthlessness.

It was her grandson's diagnosis that prompted her GP to consider her for a diagnosis, leading to a breakthrough in understanding her own condition. The realization that she could be autistic came as a relief, but the past experiences of masking served as a stark reminder of the toll this process can take on mental health.

Madking: A More Extreme Form of Masking

ldquo;Madkingrdquo; is an even more extreme form of masking that requires significant and sustained effort. While it can be effective in short-term social interactions, it is not recommended for prolonged use. Overexertion through constant masking can lead to the development of mental health conditions.

Relaxation and Fringe Benefits

Unlike masking, not everyone with autism has to engage in these behaviors to fit in. For instance, someone with Asperger syndrome like the author may find sitting and staring to be a form of relaxation. While it is true that certain individuals can experience trauma from social interactions due to the cruelty of others, this does not diminish the value of embracing natural autistic behavior.

Another common challenge is the difficulty in mastering a language that is not one's native tongue. Similarly, masking is a form of social interaction that autistic individuals attempt to master, resulting in performances that are not as smooth as those of neurotypical individuals.

Conclusion

Masking is a survival strategy for many autistic individuals, but it is not without its costs. While it can help individuals fit into social settings, it should be approached with caution to avoid long-term mental health issues. Embracing neurodiversity and finding a balance between masking and open expression can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life.