Arranged Marriage: A Success Story of Love and Understanding
Introduction to Arranged Marriage and Cultural Context
The concept of arranged marriage often carries a negative connotation in Western societies. However, it is a cultural tradition in many parts of the world, including India, where family connections and astrological compatibility play significant roles. This story tells the tale of two individuals, a 25-year-old Indian man working in the U.S., and his parents who underwent an arranged marriage.
Parental Marriage and Preconceived Ideas
My mother, a petite 4'10'' beauty, always dreamed of having tall children. My father, a kind-hearted and hardworking man, had faced mockery in his school days due to his appearance. Standing at 5'1'', he sought a partnership that would elevate his stature. Both my parents, aged 26 and 22 respectively, had preconceived ideas about their ideal partners, each wanting someone taller.
The Emergence of Love
Beyond their initial expectations, my parents started talking via phone. Over time, they realized they genuinely liked each other, despite their preconceived ideas. However, their union faced an unexpected challenge: their astrologers predicted they would not have children if they married. Compromising was not an option for them. Influenced by their parents' fierce determination, they refused to give up on their relationship. Their decision to marry despite their astrological differences shocked their grandparents, who had anticipated their separation.
Wedding and Post-Wedding Challenges
My father purchased a wedding saree worth Rs. 50,000 with his savings, which amounted to a significant amount at the time, when his salary was just Rs. 170 per day. Despite the financial stinginess, their bond was unbreakable. Both my parents loved each other deeply, and they prioritized their happiness over biological offspring. They insisted on adopting or being childfree if they couldn't have biological children. They continued to support each other in every aspect of life, including cooking and cleaning. They defied societal expectations by becoming a short couple, but they remained unaffected by the ridicule and criticism.
Baby's Arrival and Family Dynamics
Surprisingly, my mother conceived just two months after tying the knot. The couple was initially shocked, but they embraced this unexpected addition to their family. My father worked diligently to ensure my mother's well-being, taking care of her health and offering her nutrients and desired items. My brother, resembling my father, was born, and my father doted on him unconditionally. Within three months, my mother was pregnant with me, and they accepted the decision to have another child. As they lacked legal options for abortion, they welcomed me into their family. To my great joy, I was loved even before my birth and carried the wishes of my father for a baby girl who would be as beautiful as my mother.
Family Happiness and Longevity
To everyone's surprise, my older brother grew tall, but I, at 5'0'', remained of a similar height to my mother. Despite the challenges and criticisms, my family thrived. They have been happily married for 16 years, continuing to support and care for each other. Our family is not only happy and healthy but also a testament to the enduring value of love and understanding, redefining societal expectations of arranged marriages.
Conclusion: The Value of Love and Cultural Traditions
Love and mutual respect transcend all boundaries. This story underscores the significance of cultural traditions while highlighting the power of love and understanding. As the saying goes, 'God's plan is better than ours, and you never know what the future veils.' In the end, families like mine are a beautiful reminder of the enduring value of love and cultural heritage.